I celebrated my 30th birthday with friends in London on Saturday, enjoying afternoon tea at the Modern Pantry, followed by cocktails at Bourne & Hollingsworth Bar. Of course, a question I’ve been getting asked quite a lot is how I feel about turning 30. The honest answer is: really happy! I’m looking forward to the future with a lot of excitement, but also enjoying each day as it comes as much as I can. It’s a truth universally acknowledged that the years speed up the older you get, and I really want to savour this next year. If my 20s taught me anything, it was to celebrate the little things, as well as the big, and to find joy in the small commonplaces of day-to-day existence.
Of course, I wouldn’t be me if hitting a milestone birthday didn’t leave me feeling reflective. Although I do feel essentially the same person as I was a few years ago, I have realised that there have been a few changes, now that I’m 30.
I know who I am and what I want.
At 30, I’m much more confident than I was at 20. I’ve learnt to embrace the uncertainty of an unknown future (never easy for a control freak), whilst still being focused on the goals I want to achieve. I’m more resilient to disappointments and know the only person I can ever change is myself.
I’m thinking more about my fitness levels.
In January, I started a ‘fit by 30’ goal, that saw me making exercise a very regular part of my weekly routine, and I even took up weight lifting. Over the summer, I experimented with Intermittent Fasting, which I really recommend if you’re struggling to maintain a target weight, or want to shed a few pounds. I’ve been pleased with my results and am proud of the progress I’ve made with weight-lifting, but I’ve realised how important consistency is in reaching targets, and I’m still learning how to juggle a busy life with very regular exercise. In the end, it all comes down to priorities, and I’m realising that my health should always be at the top of my list.
I feel grateful.
As I get older, I realise more and more how important it is to be thankful for all the good I have in my life. Jotting down a little gratitude list in the evenings is one of the daily rituals I enjoy the most. I can sometimes be a rather negative person (it’s the perfectionist / control freak side), and encouraging myself to think of the positive each day helps me to have a much more optimistic outlook.
I bought anti-wrinkle moisturiser and am colouring my hair.
There are definitely some silvery threads starting to appear in my hair. I was horrified at first, but then almost every woman I spoke to about it said they’ve been getting grey hairs since their mid-20s, so I felt a little better. I’m mainly upset because it’s meant I’ve had to start colouring my hair. For now, I can get away with a gloss to cover them, and I’m hoping this will last a while!
I’ve always been a bit of skincare nut, but now I’m upping my game even more. I bought some anti-wrinkle moisturisers in Geneva (Swiss pharmacies are amazing) and am slathering them on morning and night. I believe that the best ways to take care of your skin have nothing to do with any kind of product, but are simply: get enough sleep, avoid the sun, eat a balanced diet, drink lots of water and avoid too much alcohol. Still, I’m also a fan of having a strict skincare routine. I’m convinced mine has helped keep my skin relatively problem free throughout my teen and adult years.
I’m a nap convert.
I find that on days I get up very early and also do a weight session at the gym, I can barely keep my eyes open around 3pm. It’s amazing how even a 20 minute power nap makes the world of difference though. I used to pride myself on never sleeping during the day, but now I’ve definitely learnt to embrace nap time.
I have faith in myself.
I’ve learnt how to rely on myself, and that if I truly want to achieve something, I won’t give up until I do. Your 20s always comes with a few knocks along the way, but by your 30s you realise your own strength and ability to overcome whatever obstacles fate strews along your path.
Do you notice any changes to your personality as you get older?